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By Carol Blotter August 21, 2024
Fear has a strong physical component: the body pumps stress hormones, blood flows, muscles tense. The mind can become fuzzy and it can become difficult to think of anything but fear. Fear is the body’s protection to keep it alive, to keep its progeny and family alive. Fear is an animal instinct. When we experience fear, we hunker down, become singularly focused, we figuratively build walls and compounds for protection. Fear actually has a pleasure component – dopamine. That’s easy to see in those who just love the craziest roller-coaster. Dopamine helps explain how fear can become addictive, a more constant way we approach living. And constant fear is unhealthy - wearing on our bodies, impacting our hearts, our circulation, our weight, our mental acuity – just like most addictions. Compassion is also a natural expression of the human spirit. It is the deep understanding that we are in this together. Compassion takes more courage than fear. It’s a willingness to stand strong with hearts open. Malidoma Soma, an African shaman, once said, “compassion, love, caring is in fact a life that looks graphically like, a whole bunch of people holding hands together and walking towards a chasm, but singing, because they know, if they fall, all of them together, beauty is the only thing that can happen.” As we face the challenges of this time - the elections, the environment, the war and hatred - along with our personal challenges of health, loved ones, memories, economics, is it possible to face them with compassion for yourself and others? Are your thoughts based on fear or love and compassion? Look for contraction and tension in the body and mind. Smile. That alone will begin to break the fear addiction. Then watch for judgment and keep smiling.
By Carol Blotter June 20, 2024
The world just isn't the way we want it.
By Carol Blotter May 2, 2024
Dukkha is a Pali word that is usually translated as suffering. It covers a wide range of experiences from slight irritation through boredom to extreme cases of suffering. The Buddha, in his teachings, emphasized the cause of dukkha and the release from dukkha. One way to look at the cause of suffering is that we want this present moment to be different than it is and our thoughts about that desire become a story. Our stories of what did happen, what is happening and what we want to happen color the present moment; the stories color reality; they color our true heart. We aren’t present. If something is beautiful, we may not appreciate it fully. If something is hurtful or unpleasant, we react from emotion and memory instead of moving towards what we value in life. We believe most of our thoughts and stories and aren’t even aware of how often we think of them. We are so addicted to thinking that we don’t even know when we are doing it. And we are causing ourselves suffering each time! My suggestion? What worked for me was super sticky Post-It notes all through the house that say, “STOP YOUR THOUGHTS NOW”. Trust the possibility that the thoughts will lessen. As they do, the mind isn’t so full. Our hearts can arise to see and lead us into new ways of interacting with the world. Meditation helps, not only the formal practice but an informal practice every waking moment. Stop, breathe, continue - and notice the thoughts stopped.
By Carol Blotter April 5, 2024
This is the way that it is now.
By Carol Blotter February 12, 2024
The Buddha encouraged his followers to take refuge in the Buddha, the Dharma and the Sangha. Refuge points to a time to rest and take a breath. It’s a time to rejuvenate and gather the strength to step back on the path, to take the next step. It’s a place to feel safe, to feel heard and to be authentic. We take refuge in the Buddha. Not in the man but in all those who are awakened. They are everywhere and we don’t know it because they don’t act any differently. They work, eat and sleep just like regular people. The only difference is “Buddhas” realize their identity with the ultimate reality while most do not. We take refuge because they demonstrate that this is possible for each of us. Every person can do this. They give us hope, courage and clarity. We aren’t idolizing or worshipping them. We learn from their lives, their presence, their speech, and their teachings. That learning isn’t work; it just rubs off on us as we allow ourselves to drink from the deep well of Presence that they embody. We take refuge in the Dharma, the teachings of the Buddha and others. The teachings arise in our thoughts and behaviors and inform us how to see clearly. They help us learn to break through the many stories and illusions we hold. We see that those stories are not essential to who we truly are. In taking refuge in the Dharma, we open ourselves to experience learning from every experience. We make our meditation practice our life. There are no boundaries between sitting on a cushion and being in the subway. Wherever there is resistance or contraction, there is learning possible. Whenever insights occur, there is learning happening. We take refuge in the Sangha. The sangha represents a non-verbal connection. In a silent retreat, often people feel close to others even though they don’t have a clue about their stories. Sangha gives us a practice to open our hearts and be authentic and vulnerable. We can practice letting go of any boundaries and protection that we carry with us. Within the sangha, awareness of openness and gratitude grows so that we can begin to feel the times when we close ourselves and our barrier comes up. We become attuned to the joy of living without that protection and become curious about how the Dharma can help us live without contraction. We gain more courage as we watch all the other Buddhas in the world. We can’t separate the three. The sangha is a place of Dharma. The sangha is a place of Buddhas. All sangha members are inspiration to each other and Buddhas. The sangha is the Dharma sharing the path and its challenges with each other. They are interconnected into such an amazing gift.
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